Powered by Max Banner Ads April 2011 Queeries by Steven Petrow “To spy or not to spy on my girlfriend” Q: Last week I picked up my girlfriend’s cell and read a very intimate text from someone who was no doubt a sexual partner. I completely flipped out and have been thinking about downloading some of the “spy” software that allows you “to find out everything THEY DO on the Internet... 

February 2011 Queeries by Steven Petrow “I was outed on Facebook” Q: Even though my good friend Letisha lives with her girlfriend, she is not out to her family. At least she wasn’t until last week. Right after the holidays I posted a lovey-dovey photo of the two of them on my Facebook page, tagging both. Then of course bam! The photo was automatically uploaded to Letisha’s Facebook page and... 

November 2010 Queeries by Steven Petrow “We want to help other kids fight bullying” Q: It’s been so upsetting to the queer kids at my middle school to hear about all the teen suicides lately and the awful bullying going on. One guy I know got punched in the face recently and his Facebook page was smeared with homophobic comments like “faggot.” What can we do to help our friends? A: That’s... 

October 2010 Queeries by Steven Petrow “Teaching Kids of Gay Parents” Q: I teach fifth grade, and every fall we study genealogy and create what are called “family trees.” I have a new student this year who has two dads, and I think he’s adopted. How do I handle this topic appropriately in class? A: First of all, kudos to you for being sensitive to this subject – the family tree project... 

Queeries August 2010 By Steven Petrow I’m not stalking him, but… Q: I connected with this really nice guy on Facebook and have been perusing his profile ever since. We’re actually going to meet for coffee—as our first date. So am I allowed to “know” as much as I do about him? I don’t want to creep him out. A: Unless your new friend has signed up for an app that reveals who’s been reading... 

Queeries by Steven Petrow Sex When You’re A Houseguest Q: My boyfriend “Alexander” and I are going to be visiting some close friends at their summer house next weekend. He really likes the idea of getting hot and heavy while we’re there; I think it’s rude to have sex at someone’s house when you’re a guest. What do you think? A: Although some think it’s disrespectful to one’s... 

June 2010 Queeries By Steven Petrow What about a gay pride “dress code”? Q: I’m looking forward to my city’s pride celebration later this month but wondering if you have some suggestions on a “dress code” for those in attendance. Here’s why I ask: On a day that our community gets so much attention from the news media and from straight people, I think it’s a shame that so many of my... 

Queeries author Steven Petrow Queeries May 2010 By Steven Petrow What to do about uninvited kids at a gay party? Q: I was completely shocked when two of our gay friends showed up for a dinner party with their twins in tow. I hadn’t mentioned kids in the invitation and the table was set for eight–four adult couples. I did the best I could, but I don’t think I hid my irritation very well, especially... 

Queeries April 2010 By Steven Petrow When to tell your date “I’m transgender”? Q: I’ve told men upfront that I’m a male-to-female trans woman (I date straight guys) and I’ve also waited till longer into the relationship, and I still don’t know which is the better approach. I don’t want them to be upset (or to lose their attention), but I also want them... 

Queeries March 2010 By Steven Petrow When a straight guy asks a lesbian out? Q: I could use some help in understanding proper etiquette when a heterosexual fellow asks me out thinking that I’m a straight woman. What can I say? A: If you missed the wonderful cartoon on this subject in the New Yorker recently, let me repeat the caption, since it’s brilliant. Straight guy asks lesbian out, and she...